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     October 16-19, 2013

     Amman, Jordan

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8th Annual
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Engaging The OTHER
     Spring, 2014
     Michigan USA

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Dearborn, Michigan USA

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2011 ETO Program

6th Annual International Conference on
"Engaging The Other:"

The Power of Compassion

December 1-4, 2011    
Santa Clara University, Santa Clara, Calif. USA

Sponsored by:
Common Bond Institute,
Co-Sponsored by:
Pacifica Institute, Santa Clara University, Global Ministries University,
International Humanistic Psychology Association
Supported by:
Meridian University, Silicon Valley Inter-religious Council,
Charter for Compassion,
and Parliament of World's Religions
Endorsed by:

Over 100 cooperating organizations and universities

Registration is Open To All

2011 Presenter Biographicals
   2011 Program Overview

Thursday, December 1
Opening Night Site only:
Saint Paul's United Methodist Church
405 S. 10th Street, San Jose, CA (see map)

On-Site Registration and Check-in Opens at 4:30 pm

6:30 pm - 9:30 pm

Greeting, Mission, Announcements
   Steve Olweean

Keynote and Special Acknowledgement:  
    Huston Smith

     Marita Gruzden

All-Conference Interactive Dialogue Experience
  To begin the process of interacting and building the
  conference learning community

     Jeff Richardson

Introduction of OptionFinder Interactive Voting and Tracking System
used to assist in identifying and tracking emerging priority issues,
  choices, and directions
throughout the 3 1/2 days of the conference

  leading to focused action planning and practical applications beyond
  the conference

     Chris Bui

Friday, December 2
(Site: Benson Center, Santa Clara University)

Morning Yoga Session
8:15 - 9:00 am
(bring your own floor mat)

Gabriella Yates


Workshops and Roundtables
Morning  9:30 - 11:00 am

A 1:  "Nonviolent Communication Based Mediation"
This workshop session offersa demonstration, and questions & answers regarding Nonviolent Communication.
Mair Alight, Lisa Montana

A 2:  "Accessing The Trust Frequency: 10 Assumptions For A New Paradigm"
New Mind. New World. A unique perspective on humanity’s interconnectedness with each other and all life in an abundant, loving universe. Examine core beliefs and become loving and compassionate. Discover “Top-Line Economics”
Format: Presentation, Contemplation, Discussion.
Connie Baxter Marlow, Andrew Cameron Bailey


Workshops and Roundtables
Afternoon  11:15 am - 12:45 pm

B 1:  "Engaging Games - Transform Your Learning Program With Impactful Experiential Activities"
Explore some alternative approaches to surfacing key issues and emotions while strengthening connections within your group. We'll share some of our favorite games and activities in addition to discussing debrief strategies to make it easier to incorporate these impactful learning tools into your programs.
Jeff Richardson

B 2:  "Let's Get Real About Racism"
Examine the fears and stereotypes preventing us from having truly open and authentic conversations and relationships. Explore through guided questions what people of color can't say and whites are afraid to ask. Learn to effectively and compassionately communicate cross-culturally.
Lee Mun Wah

~ Lunch ~
12:45 - 2:00 pm


Workshops and Roundtables
Afternoon  2:00 - 3:30 pm

C 1:  "Marginalized Youth: Special Needs and At-risk Youth in Schools and Community as the 'Other' "
Jehan Olweean, Deborah Simon

C 2:  "The Soliya Program And Other Models To Engage The Other In The Middle East"
We will bring together some of the students engaged in the Soliya course at San Jose State University to demonstrate some of the skills needed to engage in this type of UN sponsored program. We plan to include participants in the Soliya program located in the Middle East via Skype.
Gerald Grudzen, Mohamed Qayoumi, Johanna Koudsi, Awad Awad, Larry Harris, Andrew Ridley, Emily Thurbon


Facilitated Dialogue Groups
(Conference-wide break-out groups)
Afternoon  3:45 - 5:15 pm
(All participants self-select one of several concurrent dialogue groups)

Opportunity for all participants to engage in open agenda dialogues to process the conference, share learning, explore concepts and related issues, network, and brainstorm practical applications and collaboration. Dialogue groups are viewed as the engines of the conference experience where collaboration and application most emerge. In addition to facilitators, scribes in each group record content highlights. Information is compiled and posted to CBI's web blog, allowing participants an evolving overview of what is brewing in the community from day to day to promote deeper dialogue as the conference progresses. The information is also included in conference proceedings and outcomes, and utilized for future cooperation and planning.

~ Dinner ~
5:15 - 7:00 pm
6:30 - 7:00 Speaker: James Harrington

Presentation of OptionFinder
Interactive Conference Voting
and Strategic Tracking System

7:00 - 8:00 pm

A highly interactive voting and tracking process, woven throughout the entire conference beginning with our Thursday night opening. This process utilizes OptionFinder, a proven, integrated mechanisms for real-time input from both on-site participants and those joining us virtually to assist in identifying emerging priority issues, choices, and directions, leading to focused action planning at the end of the 3 1/2 day dialogue and deliberation experience on Sunday for practical applications beyond the conference.
Chris Bui

Evening Social Gathering
8:00 - 9:00 pm
LAP-In to wrap up the day and consider intentions for the next. This is a time we can all be in one circle together and share some surprises and insights, some laughter and possibilities before closing out the day and heading off to sleep
Max Gail, Chris Kaul

Saturday, December 3

Morning Yoga Session
8:15 - 9:00 am
(bring your own floor mat)

Gabriella Yates
, MA

Morning 9:30 - 11:15 am

"Exploring Grassroots Commonalities and Empowerment: Occupy WS, Tea Party, Coffee Party, and Arab Spring"
We are witnessing several major grassroots civic movements emerging organically across the country and globe in recent years and months, some among communities typically portrayed in the image of "Other." Almost by default these movements are often portrayed and viewed as unrelated phenomenon by "other" groups, or in comparing them in contrast as opposing efforts. Playing into over emphasizing or inadvertantly even fabricating differences, and using them to undermine and invalidate each, can miss seeing a possible larger picture where commonalities may outweigh actual differences, and if so present unique and powerful opportunities for solidarity in areas where they agree. This dialogue among individuals with insights and strong links into each movement will explore this larger picture and the possibilities that may be emerging for mutual support and benefit.
David Korten, Debilyn Molineaux, Mohamed Amira, Scott Shock
Moderator: Steve Olweean

(5 minute OptionFinder Check-in)


Workshops and Roundtables
11:30 am - 1:00 pm

F-1:  "Integrating Dialogue & Action"
How many times have dialogues become kumbaya moments full of feel-good energy that lead to little action or no impact? In this session, we'll use a short film clip (9500 Liberty) to demonstrate what happens when a community uses dialogue AS action, reversing a newly-enacted immigration policy within a matter of weeks. Then we'll engage with session members to explore how this can happen in real time and other situations, like Coffee Party USA's Citizens Lobby or examples from participants.
Debilyn Molineaux, Eric Byler

F-2"The Gulen (Hizmet) Movement"
This session focuses on The Gulen (Hizmet) Movement, a transnational civic society movement inspired by the teachings of Turkish Islamic scholar Fethullah Gulen. Gulen's faith based teachings, especially the notion of hizmet (altruistic service to "common good") have attracted a large number of supporters in Turkey and increasingly in other parts of the world. Panelists will examine: 1) The movement's schools and activities in education and interfaith (intercultural) dialogue in embracing the other", 2) The role of women in the movement's activities, and 3) the Construction of The "Other" in Fethullah Gulen's Thought.
Huseyin Aytug, Nihal Sahan, Ozgur Koca 


F-3:  "White on White: Tempering Passion With Humility When Engaging The Other"
We invite participants to re-examine personal experiences with difficult conversations about racism or white privilege. Using questions that support critical self-reflection, participants explore how personal needs can interfere with their good intentions of engaging the other with compassion while striving to interrupt racism and privilege.
Elizabeth Kasl, Linda Sartor, Alec MacLeod, Doug Paxton, Penny Rosenwasser, Carole Barlas

~ Lunch ~
1:00 - 2:15 pm
(5 minute OptionFinder Check-in)


Workshops and Roundtables
Afternoon 2:15 - 3:45 pm

G-1:  "Turning Towards The Necessary Conversation: Otherness And The Organizational Shadow"
This workshop will address the issue of how organizations and communities harm their members. Through an examination of cases, demonstration and experiential processes we will learn how to recognize the signs and engage with the paradox of virtue and malignancy in well intentioned organizations.
Maureen O'Hara
, Aftab Omer

G-2"Story As Entry To Dialogue And Social Change"
"An enemy is one whose story we have not heard." War's end begins with Story and compassionate listening to discover the “other's” humanity. Diverse exemplars share personal narratives with quality communication. Participants in pairs experience new, rare listening-to-learn and take home communication tools to pass on.
Len Traubman, Libby Traubman 


G-3:  "Living Room Conversations Fish Bowl"
The Living Room Conversations Project (LRC) has demonstrated that people with diverse views can come together, as friends and friends of friends, to engage in a self-guided structured conversation about a charged issue. -Each conversation hosted by “progressive” and “conservative” co-hosts. Each host invites two of their friends to join the conversation. Join us for an abbreviated LRC about money in politics.
Joan Blades, Amanda Kathryn Roman, and guests


Facilitated Dialogue Groups
(Conference-wide break-out groups)
Afternoon  4:00 - 5:30 pm
(All participants self-select one of multiple dialogue groups)
(* See full description in SESSION D)

~ Dinner ~
5:30 - 7:00 pm
(5 minute OptionFinder Check-in)

7:00 - 8:45 pm

"Conscious Choices: Defining Each Other As Opponents Or A More Inclusive Us?"
Following up from the morning roundtable exploring both commonalities and differences between 4 major grassroots social change movements, a dialogue between those with insights and strong links into these movements more specifically addressing two possible routes (and choices) before us: one toward polarization, fragmentation, and being pitted "against," with a resulting of undermining, and one toward commonality, mutual support, and shared grassroots empowerment. What are the benefits, trade-offs, and challenges, and what will it take to share a bigger picture?
David Korten, Eric Byler, Michele St. Pierre, Mohamed Amira, et el

Moderator: Steve Olweean

(5 minute OptionFinder Check-in)

Evening Social Gathering
8:45 - 9:45 pm
LAP-In to wrap up the day and consider intentions for the next. This is a time we can all be in one circle together and share some surprises and insights, some laughter and possibilities before closing out the day and heading off to sleep
Max Gail, Chris Kaul

Sunday, December 4


Workshops and Roundtables
Morning  9:30 - 11:00 am

J-1 "Hawo's Dinner Party: Using Film To Break Down Stereotypes And Build Community"
This workshop will use "Hawo's Dinner Party," a video resource about a Somali former nurse -now refugee- making her way in a small rural town. The interactive discussion focuses on the role good character-driven stories can play in engaging multiple perspectives, resolving conflict and sparking dialogue that moves people to action
Sahar Driver

J-2:  "Negotiating Peace in Israel/Palestine in Hour and a Half"
Understanding conflict is important. Knowing how to constructively engage in dialogue through use of negotiation/mediation techniques is also necessary. This workshop will provide basic overview of this practice. Focusing on the Israeli Palestinian conflict, participants will enter into dialogue through simulation, negotiating for a possible resolution to the conflict
Lejla Mavris


Workshops and Roundtables
Morning  11:15 am - 12:45 pm

K-1 "Exploring Possibility: A Legacy - My Chat With A Nazi"
Let the story, A Legacy - My Chat with a Nazi; a conversation between a woman of African origin and a Nazi carry you to that place where we meet as One. Engage in possibility; explore your own willingness to open your heart to the other.
Deborah Simon


K-2:  "The Rise of the Youth Movement in The Middle East"

Omar Al-Tal, Leen Halawani

~ Lunch ~
12:45 - 1:45 pm


1:45 am - 3:30 pm

Utilizing OptionFinder - processing the full conference experience, voting and tracking report of central issues emerging, integraton and action planning, networking for cooperation and practical application beyond conference, mechanisms for staying engaged, affirmations, feedback & recommendations, closing circle and farewell. ETO Closing

not Listed Above

Maida Besic     Teresa Johansing

Special Features of the
2011 ETO Conference

         Daily Facilitated Dialogue Break-out Groups
Live 2-way Global Links to other countries
         OptionFinder Interactive Voting and Tracking System
         On-site Live streaming, Podcasting, Blogging

         Morning Yoga Session
Intentional Cross-Cultural Community


Guidelines For Compassionate Dialogue

The ETO Conference strives to promote an inclusive, compassionate dialogue that honors different personal experiences, perspectives, and narratives, while allowing for better expressing and listening to each other as we work together toward understanding and harmony. Our intention is to create an open venue where we can engage meaningfully and invite in a public dialogue that brings our joint wisdom to bear in exploring sometimes difficult issues that effect us all. This is based on the premise that it does not require that we be the same to be appreciative of, at peace with, and secure in our relationships with each other; only that we be familiar enough with each others story to share the humanity and trustworthiness that resides in each of us.
We ask all participants to assist us by carrying and expressing this intent throughout the conference.

NonViolent Communication Guidelines:
(Adapted from Marshall Rosenberg)

Unique Assumptions—NVC begins by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature and that violent strategies—whether verbal or physical—are learned behaviors taught and supported by the prevailing culture. It also assumes that we all share the same, basic human needs, and that all actions are a strategy to meet one or more of these needs.

While NVC is much more than a communication model, the components below provide a structural concept of the process that leads to giving and receiving from the heart.

Honestly Expressing how I am and what I would like without using blame, criticism or demands

Empathically Receiving how another is and what he/she would like without hearing blame, criticism or demands  

Whether expressing or receiving, NVC focuses our attention on four pieces of information:

Observations—Objectively describing what is going on without using evaluation, moralistic judgment, interpretation or diagnosis
Feelings—Saying how you feel (emotions and body sensations) about what you have observed without assigning blame
Needs—The basic human needs that are or not being met and are the source of feelings
Requests—Clear request for actions that can meet needs

2012 ETO Conference Information

 Underlying Concepts
Main ETO Conference Page

Program Overview and Guidelines
Continuing Education Units (CEUs)
Site and Travel Information

ETO Full Conference PROGRAM
Presenter Biographicals and Photos
(to be posted)
Press Room
   1 page Color Conference Flyer (pdf)
   1 page Black & White Conference Flyer (pdf)
   1 page Color Conf. Poster - 8 1/2 X 14 size (pdf)
   On-Site Video Interviews and Proceedings
Conference Staff Contacts

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